Sunday, October 26, 2008

The Plan So Far

On Tuesday, Nov 4th, mom and I will vote and then we will move the last of our belongings to the car, have our mail forwarded to a P.O Box and move into a homeless shelter.  Yes, I know it isn't the best plan, but at this point it's all I can come up with.  Rents in the area are more than we can afford, mom can't get into a decent nursing home and very few places will let us have two dogs.   Plus, my credit sucks.

It is important that mom stay in the area because she has convenient medical care,  knows where she is most of the time, and has benefits that would be stopped if we leave the county and she would have to qualify all over again.  As it is, she is going to have a hard time orienting herself in a new living situation.

It also seems that we will qualify for housing help if we don't have a place to stay, so if I can't find a place that we can afford, we can hang out with other people who also can't afford to live in the area.  It doesn't make sense to me either.  Somehow when I moved up here I never thought that this would happen.

I haven't been able to post because one, I'm depressed and two, I've been frantically looking for a place to stay and a way to make money that won't leave mom alone all day.   So far I've had no luck with either of my two projects.  If anybody knows of a safe place we can live in San Jose, I would appreciate you letting me know.  The absolute last thing a person with dementia needs is to live in a homeless shelter.  Mom needs a quiet environment that she is comfortable with so she can live out her last days in peace.

And I need a break so we can get back on our feet.



  1. Sorry to hear this is happening to you. I'd sure as hell never let my mother / family go through this if I could help it. Are your brothers such total pussies that they won't stand up to their wives when it comes to helping your Mom? God help America!
    Rick J

  2. Deb... I wish, I wish, I wish I had an answer, but things up here in the City are even worse than down your way. Though I know that it's not much comfort, rest assured the Frogette and I are sending good vibes your way. Hopefully you'll catch a break.

  3. Thank you. I'm trying to have faith that everything will work out for the best but I admit to being scared that it won't.

    What really roasts my butt is that in 2001 I almost made a $100K and now I don't make $10K. Oh well, that's the way the cookie crumbles.

    And yes, at the moment my brothers leave a lot to be desired.

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